Thursday, April 28, 2011
Are you a King or Queen, Warrior, Magician, or Lover?
I've been thinking a lot about friendship lately and reading research on it. Aristotle believed that there are three types of friendships; utility, pleasure, and virtuous friendship. He argued that friendship should be so highly valued because it is a complete virtue - above honor and justice.
A virtuous friendship is, Aristotle argues in Nicomachean Ethics, one of the most glorious attainments one can achieve. This type of relationship is based on a person wishing the best for their friends regardless of utility or pleasure.
"... a complete sort of friendship between people who are alike in virtue." -- Aristotle.
Aristotle also argues that this type of friendship is long lasting and hard to come by because it takes a lot of time and care.
But what about personality fit in friendship? I recently read in psychology today that those who are best friend potential for us also tend to be our opposite in personality style. Take a look at this quiz that helps people decipher who they are in friendships/relationships.
I took the quiz and its results show that I am predominately a lover (38%). My perfect opposite is an assertive, analytical warrior. Hmmmm, that is Mr. DID in a nutshell.
Clearly there are other variables involved in a successful friendship and I've only scratched the surface of what is vast research out there. But like Aristotle, who examined friendship extensively, I believe it is a complete virtue and one that should examined closely.